Comments for Neurotically http://neurotically.wordpress.com Daily neurotic thoughts Wed, 08 Oct 2008 18:53:10 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Developmental Disability? by Josie http://neurotically.wordpress.com/2008/10/08/developmental-disability/#comment-4 Josie Wed, 08 Oct 2008 18:53:10 +0000 http://neurotically.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-4 i kind of know how you feel. my son is 22 months old as well and doesnt' not speak either. he says momma, dadda, and butt. granted he doesn't speak but he recognizes things. he knows what diffrent objects are and knows how to sort shapes. i agree with "momma" that callign your son an oaf is not the best thing. once you start thinking of him as that you will treat him as that and then he won't feel the need to progress. i was also very discouraged that my son still doens't speak. i go shopping with him and see other kids speaking. but hey...he's my son. he will speak when he has somethign to say. and you do know einstein didn't speak till he was 5 right? all kids have their own timeline. in terms of the dirty diapers...boys take longer to potty train than girls. thinking you will get this accomplished when he is 22 months old is ludicrous and you are just setting YOURSELF up for failure. wait till he's 2.5 - 3. that's when they are pottytrain age. until then...please just enjoy him. no one wants a mother that calls him an oaf. i kind of know how you feel. my son is 22 months old as well and doesnt’ not speak either. he says momma, dadda, and butt. granted he doesn’t speak but he recognizes things. he knows what diffrent objects are and knows how to sort shapes.

i agree with “momma” that callign your son an oaf is not the best thing. once you start thinking of him as that you will treat him as that and then he won’t feel the need to progress. i was also very discouraged that my son still doens’t speak. i go shopping with him and see other kids speaking. but hey…he’s my son. he will speak when he has somethign to say. and you do know einstein didn’t speak till he was 5 right?

all kids have their own timeline.

in terms of the dirty diapers…boys take longer to potty train than girls. thinking you will get this accomplished when he is 22 months old is ludicrous and you are just setting YOURSELF up for failure. wait till he’s 2.5 – 3. that’s when they are pottytrain age. until then…please just enjoy him. no one wants a mother that calls him an oaf.

]]> Comment on Developmental Disability? by Momma Knows http://neurotically.wordpress.com/2008/10/08/developmental-disability/#comment-3 Momma Knows Wed, 08 Oct 2008 16:10:11 +0000 http://neurotically.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-3 I'm sorry that you feel your life sucks. I remember what it was like with two 2-year olds and a newborn, and just barely making it through each day. I remember tantrums in grocery stores (banks, parks, anywhere public), poopy pants, and spills. What I also remember, fondly, is that they aren't little for very long. I have six children, ranging from 6 years up to 20 (and a grandbaby!), and miss those younger years. Potty training is probably the one thing I really did NOT enjoy, but still, it will happen when he's ready. Somehow I doubt your son has a developmental disability, and comparing your son to an oaf sounds very.... Hmm I don't know I can't think of a word for it. Very mean. I guess that's the only way I can think of it. I have a child with a serious developmental delay. I do not think of him as an oaf. I love his precious little heart, and I cherish everything he CAN do. Your son isn't 2 years old yet. Let him grow up, but don't rush him! He WILL get potty trained. Two of our boys potty trained at 3, and one at 2. Boys generally train later than girls. It takes a while for those muscles and nerves to all begin working together. He will train but not before he's ready. You will only make yourself frustrated and become angry with your child if you have unrealistic expectations. DO NOT COMPARE YOUR CHILD TO SOMEONE ELSE'S. They are individuals. If you are very concerned about his development, take him to a pediatrician. Get a referral to a developmental specialist, and have him evaluated. Sitting back saying "My life sucks" and calling your son an oaf is not the way to raise a child. If he needs some help, GET IT FOR HIM. Early intervention is key when dealing with your child's development. Unless you want him to sit in the back of the classroom, in his poopy pants, eating paste. I know parenting toddlers is hard. I did it. We're just barely out of that stage. Hang in there! It does get easier, for a while! Then you'll have teenagers and you'll wonder why you have to keep such a close eye on them when they're 14, 15, 16... And yes, they take more time and attention than toddlers do. They're a lot more fun though, too. Enjoy your kids!!!! I’m sorry that you feel your life sucks. I remember what it was like with two 2-year olds and a newborn, and just barely making it through each day. I remember tantrums in grocery stores (banks, parks, anywhere public), poopy pants, and spills. What I also remember, fondly, is that they aren’t little for very long. I have six children, ranging from 6 years up to 20 (and a grandbaby!), and miss those younger years. Potty training is probably the one thing I really did NOT enjoy, but still, it will happen when he’s ready.

Somehow I doubt your son has a developmental disability, and comparing your son to an oaf sounds very…. Hmm I don’t know I can’t think of a word for it. Very mean. I guess that’s the only way I can think of it. I have a child with a serious developmental delay. I do not think of him as an oaf. I love his precious little heart, and I cherish everything he CAN do. Your son isn’t 2 years old yet. Let him grow up, but don’t rush him! He WILL get potty trained. Two of our boys potty trained at 3, and one at 2. Boys generally train later than girls. It takes a while for those muscles and nerves to all begin working together. He will train but not before he’s ready. You will only make yourself frustrated and become angry with your child if you have unrealistic expectations. DO NOT COMPARE YOUR CHILD TO SOMEONE ELSE’S. They are individuals.

If you are very concerned about his development, take him to a pediatrician. Get a referral to a developmental specialist, and have him evaluated. Sitting back saying “My life sucks” and calling your son an oaf is not the way to raise a child. If he needs some help, GET IT FOR HIM. Early intervention is key when dealing with your child’s development.

Unless you want him to sit in the back of the classroom, in his poopy pants, eating paste.

I know parenting toddlers is hard. I did it. We’re just barely out of that stage. Hang in there! It does get easier, for a while! Then you’ll have teenagers and you’ll wonder why you have to keep such a close eye on them when they’re 14, 15, 16… And yes, they take more time and attention than toddlers do. They’re a lot more fun though, too. Enjoy your kids!!!!

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